Nomination Clarifications Post #1

[slashmarks]

If you've found a duplicate or other mistake, please let me know here!

Nominators for the tags below have about 72 hours to fix them, defend them or replace them with something else (until 3 AM EDT on the 26th). After that, I will reject or fix them as below.

Relationship Tags

Buffyverse

Kushiel's Legacy - Jacqueline Carey

Marvel Cinematic Universe

Freeform Tags

Off-topic

The following tags are off topic and will be rejected. If you want to use the slot for something else, or edit them to include something that makes them on topic (for example, including them in a D/s scenario or adding kinky details), you have seventy-two hours.

Clothing Kink - Suits
Smut - Sensation Play - Sensual Massage Leads to Sex
Smut - Clothing Kink - Groping/Licking Through Underwear
Fisting
Smut - Endytophilia
Smut - Tattoo Kink - Tracing Partner's Tattoos During Sex
Boypussy (This falls under the fantasy rule; the person with a boypussy must be doing something kinky to count. If that's being body modded to have one, please specify!)
Sex Toys - Custom Made
blowjob to rimjob, Ass to Mouth
Come Inflation

The following tags are probably off topic, but I am willing to hear arguments that they should be accepted.

Cockwarming, Cock Warming
Crossdressing, Male Character(s) Wearing Panties and Garters, Male Character(s) Wearing Lace,  Clothing Kink - Crossdressing
Breeding Kink, Breeding
Clothing Kink - Gloves
Voyeurism
Hyper Muscle Growth

Ambiguous Wording

The following tags are worded confusingly and need to be rephrased. I will either reject them or edit them as I think is best in seventy-two hours.

Predator/Prey - is this meant as a roleplay scenario, a petplay scenario, an anthro scenario, a vore scenario, something else? Please specify/edit.

Pillow Talk Negotiations - Could the nominator please explain what they were picturing?

Bitching - Do you want the A/B/O scenario or the bestiality one?

Sub wants to be held down - I'm not clear whether the nominator wants "Bondage - Held down," or a negotiation scene where the sub expresses their desire to be held down.

Safewords, Safeword Use, safewords respected
Are these meant to be scenes where a safeword is used, or where the characters discuss/think about having safewords?

experienced sub scenes with inexperienced dom - I'm not sure what "scenes" as a verb is supposed to mean here, could the nominator clarify?

Immobilized by restraints - is this meant as Bondage - With Restraints, or Bondage - Completely Immobilized, or something else?

Other Problems and Queries:

Forced Mesudanshi TF - what does this mean? Also, does TF stand for transformation?

Cobb Vanth's Enormous Dick, Cockslut Din Djarin
Freeforms may be fandom-specific, but not character-specific.

Comments

[withthekeyisking]

Not the "experienced sub scenes with inexperienced dom" submitter but scenes is often used as the verb to mean "participates in BDSM scene with someone". If I scene with blindfolds, I'm doing a scene with blindfolds.

For "Clothing Kink - Gloves": I'm confused about why this wouldn't be allowed when there are other clothing kink things. Why is a kink about gloves not allowed but a kink about piercings is?

For "Male Character(s) Wearing Panties and Garters" and "Male Character(s) Wearing Lace": You've already accepted "Male Character(s) Wear Corset" into the tagset, and the others fit that exact kind of thing. Why are they different in eligibility?

"Breeding Kink", "Voyeurism", and "Endytophilia" aren't mine but I'm confused about why they wouldn't be allowed as well - they're specific kinks that people have. Why do they not qualify when something like "Mommy Kink" does?

[slashmarks]

Thanks for the clarification about the 'scenes' slang!

Like I said in the rules post, this is not an exchange for general sex acts, but for BDSM and BDSM-adjacent kinks. Obviously, this is a subjective line, and unfortunately there's probably no one definition that would make everyone happy. You are welcome to prompt for or include other kinks that are not ruled acceptable freeforms in works - they just aren't criteria that can be matched on.

However, any kink that falls under the acronym is allowed, so piercing and other kinks that involve pain definitely are. Likewise, corsets are allowed for several reasons (BDSM-associated clothing and the fact that they can be used for body modification, discipline and discomfort, even if a corset is certainly not always uncomfortable). This is regardless of the gender of the wearers. Mommy and Daddy kink I would consider adjacent to roleplaying and power exchange, enough that I have approved them.

I am willing to hear argument for crossdressing or gloves being particularly BDSM-associated but my current inclination is not to allow them by themselves. This is also true of breeding kink and voyeurism. I do not consider endytophilia/fetish for a partner wearing clothing during sex on topic, but you're welcome to nominate it, or any other kink that is not ruled on topic by itself, in a scenario which also incorporates BDSM, e.g., Clothed Dom Naked Sub or similar. I hope that helps!

[lonelyaura]

I'm breeding kink person - I'd argue that I've seen a fair amount of breeding kink with pony play, pup play, and people getting into scenes where they are bred out to a third party by their Dom/Handler/etc. (Or fucked by their Dom/Handler while engaging in the fantasy.) Basically the key part of this as BDSM is giving up/not having (if this is a noncon scenario) the power to decide who you're fucking, the body being specifically used, etc etc.

[slashmarks]

Thank you for the clarification for your nomination! (There were multiple nominations for this, so I'll leave the query open for now.) It sounds like you're specifically interested in something like "Roleplay - Bred By Third Party," or "Roleplay - Dom breeds sub." Would something like that work for you?

There are definitely specific scenarios like the one you're describing that would count, but I'm reluctant to approve the tag as an umbrella term because it often also is used for, for example, dirty talk about pregnancy during vanilla sex, which I wouldn't consider to qualify. Does that make sense?

[lonelyaura]

That makes sense! I might go for "Dom breeds sub", that basically hits the same concept! I think I'd rather avoid 'role play' specifically because it's the scenario itself that's fun, it can be role-play or a piece of writing that takes the idea seriously, if that makes sense

Semi-related question: does stuff that would be classified as BDSM (or close enough in our world) to us but not to the characters within a scenario count for writing? To name an example - in Dragon Age, there's a group of people that consider magic users too dangerous to be independent, so every magic user has a "Handler" that literally leads them around by a leash while the mage is blindfolded, often with sewn lips. I think it would be close enough, but I'd rather ask for clarification

[slashmarks]

Okay, sounds good! If you edit your freeform nomination to "Dom breeds Sub" I'll put it through. And yes, I'd consider that on topic! If you'd like it to be a matchable element, go ahead and describe it in a freeform tag.

[reflectedeve]

While I'm not the nominator, I'm inclined to put in a word for "Voyeurism" - voyeurism is a huge part of participating in BDSM community and events for many people. Arguably, public play is always partially about voyeurism/exhibitionism, and public play is kind of central to the BDSM community. Obviously, these things vary and so do people's own definitions--and ultimately, you're the mod!--but this one in particular stands out to me as strongly BDSM-relevant.

[slashmarks]

Thank you for commenting! Nominating any variation of Voyeurism During Play Scenes/etc would be welcome, but I think there are too many ways to reasonably fill a voyeurism tag that I would consider off topic for me to approve it as a general tag. I hope that makes sense

[reflectedeve]

Ah, yeah, it does. Well, I'm out of slots - I'll have to leave that to others, if they're so inclined.